The Age of Comparison: Or How To Reject The Temptation to Do What Everyone Else is Doing

The pressure to "do what you love" is at an all time high.

Just "follow your dreams" we all tell each other.

Make a website. Change the world one kickstarting, water well at a time.

But how long can our self-gratifying, do-goodedness keep us feeling warm and fuzzy? To what end will our efforts continue if only to change with the next bandwagon that comes along?

We live in a world driven by fear. Duh! Even our walk with Christ begins, and ends, with fear. But a Godly fear is unlike the world knows fear. Side note: I still don't totally grasp how the two are different. I only know that one leads us to wisdom while the other leads us to folly.

So then how do we learn to move past the selfish fears we have that keep us in safe places? How do we find the boldness to explore the unknown? I'm finding that we can't do it alone. We weren't made to be individuals. However much we want to believe that we are special and unique, it just isn't the whole truth. I am like you in more ways than I am different. I am the annoying little voice in your head that says I am no good. I am the sleepless walk to my daughter's bedroom at 3 in the morning when she won't sleep. I am the cold and freezing air that bites your face to the end of the driveway to take the trash out. I put my pants on one leg at a time.

When it comes down to it we need those around us who will lift us back up when we fall, who will call us on our shit when we're not acting right, and who will, above all, love us in action and truth. We weren't made to be together to compare ourselves, we were made to live together in the hopes that we would share each other's burdens and celebrate each other's victories. This is the only way I know how to move past selfishness and really do what it is I love.